Suicide Is NEVER The Solution To Your Current Situation
By Andrew Ott, MSW, LCSW | September 1, 2016
People who suffer from suicidal thoughts or what can be referred to as “ideation” will often think they are ‘at the end of their rope’, and that they are unable to deal with any more life pressures. They typically have preoccupying feelings of hurt, feel there is no reason for hope, and they can be experiencing complicated forms of grieving. If you or someone you know is experiencing this kind of struggle, there is an immediate need to seek the services of a professional counselor and/or at least someone they trust to help. Here are six reasons why suicide is not a good course to resolving what can seem like overly pressure-filled events or life circumstances.
- There Are Always Other Answers
You may feel lost and confused but the answers to your specific problems are out there. The key is that you have to find the answers to your problems, they will not ‘just come to you’. Take the step toward finding the solution to your problem through seeking help from qualified professionals and others. They may have answers that you have never considered. Brain-storming with others always offers views to see from a new angle.
- Situations Are Always Changing
Regardless of your situation, things do not stay the same. You may feel very bad today, but it won’t last forever. Remember this fact: Regardless of your current situation, everything changes over time. For example, no one ever remains five years old for the rest of their life. People mature, gain knowledge, and learn from their experiences over time. Young people (young adults and teens) still have developing brains that need more time to be able to reason well – they need to be patient to let their capacities catch up with their lives. This includes your current situation. Nothing remains the same forever.
- You Are Tremendously Valuable To Those Closest To You
Those people in your life whom you are closest to, especially your family of origin, value you and the contributions that you make in their life. You should remind yourself of the tremendous amount of hurt that you will do to the people you would leave behind. If things are so bad that you are unable to function, drop everything and go to your local hospital, crisis center or church leadership immediately. The people there will take care of your situation right away.
- “Always In Motion Is The Future” – Yoda (Mythical Wise Personality)
You are fearful, confused and do not know where to turn. You think that there is no hope for you. When you’re in this situation, remember the 99% Rule. The 99% rule states that that no one can predict the future with one hundred percent certainty. Even if the thing that you are afraid of does happen there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. For example, You have a car with engine problems that will be quite expensive to repair. Everything you feared is coming true. Suddenly, the mechanic calls and tells you that the engine had a manufacture recall and the repair is under warranty and that he forgot to tell you the day before. This unknown factor changes everything. We may think we are ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference.
- Focus On Rational Thinking And Avoid “Emotional” Thinking
When people are depressed they often rely on their fearful, depressing, and negative thoughts. That is a huge mistake. Fearful thoughts are exaggerated and are not based on reality because the reasoning part of our brain goes ‘off-line’. When you are depressed, focus on the facts of your current situation and not on what you think. Do not assume anything regarding your current situation. Seek help…from loved ones and professionals immediately.
- Remember: No situation is hopeless!
Your loved ones, friends, relatives, God, mental health counselors, ministers, etc. are all good sources of help through the ‘valleys in life’. They are all willing to help you and they can make a difference, but you must be willing to take advantage of this help. Regardless of your situation, take advantage of the help that is around you. Remember: Every problem has a solution.
Stan Popovich is the author of “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods” – an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: www.managingfear.com.
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